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And I was afraid at first...

2019 Sydkorea

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

How did you do the abortion?

It was hard. It was really really hard. Emotionally hard and physically hard. But I knew that from the second I got pregnant, this was what I had to do. I believe an abortion can be done nobly, it takes a lot of courage and strength for women who have children and women who confront themselves with abortion, however I am not trying to equate them. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing but within time and choice. I have never held so highly, that right, before this experience.

What was your situation at this time?

I am simply not ready. My partner simply is not ready. We were foolish to have not been using contraceptives. And our foolishness did end the beginning of something that could have become a someone. Perhaps this is not the case for others, but this was how I felt and I just want to be honest about it. The thought heaved in my chest, making it hard to breathe sometimes. But I know deeply, and truly, I made the right decision.

Påverkade olagligheten i din abort dina känslor?

It made me feel stuck at most. Because back home, I could have gotten this done quickly... no shame involved... no second thoughts .... no need for reflection or further investigation of what it means to have an abortion. So I would have evaded this doubt or this thing I had considered dark. However I'm grateful for this waiting period, I confronted myself, my fears, my dreams, the reality of this position. Being in Seoul was difficult though. I read online that in certain clinics doctors were understanding to women who chose abortion, nonetheless I was still nervous to see them. When my partner and I went to get an ultrasound, we just pretended that we were going have the baby. I was afraid of the unlikely event that we would be reported, but mostly I was afraid of the doctor's judgement on me. I knew it was rooted in my head, looking back, I was the only one judging myself.

Hur reagerade andra på din abort?

I didn't tell anybody. Especially my father. I felt like telling my dad was the last thing I would do in the choices I had, and they were very limited. I know that he would have been supportive, irrational and maybe mad at first. Yet the idea of telling him gave me feelings of shame and humiliation, I still don't understand why. However my boyfriend was there with me and I told my best friend, she's a nurse. And there care for me was everything.

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What is your religion?

CPA

Olá, tenho 24 anos e fiz um aborto com aproximadamente 8 semanas. Fiz questão…

Lucie

I had more than one abortions. I made the choices because I care about the…

anita nyaera

I had three abortions latest being 2018.I feel guilty but I had no choice.

wiki Kosik

Korzystaj z życia..Na dziecko, przyjdzie odpowiedni czas..

Carolina pink

Abortar tambien es un acto de amor

mary cry

pior momento de minha vida

Maree

It was sad but necessary

Yvonne

My abortion was what needed to be done at that time. Deep down me I know I…

Sofia S

Oi meninas! Meu nome é Sofia, tenho 20 anos e em novembro de 2019 descobri que…

Liz Roldan

Porque mi situación económica era bulnerable y tenia otro hijo de 5 años al…

Emily Mars

O pesadelo de uma gravidez indesejada.

Lilian Godfrey

I had an abortion twice this year. One was around August, and the second today…

Maleja

Yo aborté.

Tiffany

I am still healing from my decision - it really is a wide range of emotions.

C. Ferreira

Pior dia da minha vida

Mariana

Esta es mi historia: Tengo 35 años y 3 hijos, dos nenas y un varón de 6, 3 y 1…

Constanza Arely

El ser madre debe ser una decisión, una de las mejores experiencias que vive…

Bab

J'ai arrêté un processus de vie