Zoe

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I had an abortion. It was a stressful time, I am glad it is all behind me. My friends were very supportive. I am left angry with society that forces women to feel shame, pain, and guilt, forces them into secrecy. How dare they torture women in such a way.

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Quais foram seus sentimentos em relação ao aborto(s)?

I wish there were a few more positive emotions to choose from. I feel mostly that I was forced to feel a certain way by internalised abortion stigma, an this leaves me so angry. After a little time I am was able to rid myself completely of all the negative, self blame feelings. I am now very open about my abortion, in that I would not lie about it or hide it were it to arise in a conversation in some way. Of course, sometimes, even with some friends, there is fear on how they will react, and annoyance that maybe, probably, internally they do judge you a little.

Como fez o aborto?

It was quick. I had to go to the hospital to get the pill that induces menstruation. I had to be there until the foetus came out and the nurse checked it. I understand that it is to make sure everything went well, but I was a horrible experience to go to the hospital and stay there in the cold room, bleeding incredibly, and then get home again weakened. I want abortion pills to be legally available for use at home. Give women some credit!

Como era a sua situação nessa altura?

I just could not.

A ilegalidade de seu aborto afetou seus sentimentos?

It is only legal in my country until the 12th week, which I think is too short. The stigma is so strong that it forced me into secrecy, and only now that I am a little older (I was 20 at the time) I have absolutely no weird thoughts and am completely at peace with my experience. Well, not at peace, because I am left with this anger I described before. Stigmatisation is on the rise again, where right wing extremist control most media and propagate a message that equals abortion with murder, genocide and presents women as unreflected, one dimensional infants, mentally too limited to think about their actions. How dare they.

Como as outras pessoas reagiram ao seu aborto?

I only told one friend and my partner at the time, I was too ashamed to tell my family or close friends. This need to lie and isolation, disgusts me, why does it have to be this way? I only told most of them, my sister, and all close friends and new partner about it a year later. I was met with so much love and admiration for my strenght. I wish I had told them as soon as I knew I was pregnant, it would have helped me. But the fear to be judged was too deeply hammered into me.

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Qual é a sua religião?

Tina

I had an abortion when I was 15 years old. After my abortion, I went to college

Caroline

Never had any regrets

Priscila

Há 5 anos atrás fiz um aborto,e hoje vejo claramente que foi a melhor escolha e…

María

Proceso duro,

Delia

I had an abortion and it changed my life, for better and for worse.

Tatá

Fiz um aborto com 8 semanas. Eu me envolvi com um colega de trabalho, por um…

Karin

Zrobiłam to!

Wiadomość o ciąży:

Mój cykl menstruacyjny zawsze wynosił 28 dni

Embrace So

aku aborsi karena aku tidak ingin mengecewakan banyak orang. pasangan saya sama…

Ania Kijawska

Mam dziecko, dom, męża zdecydowałam się na aborcję.

Grace Grace

Y no existe arrepentimiento.

Naad

I had an abortion when I was 23 years old

Mitzi .

I had an abortion. And i know that was the best choice.

Lu

Y aunque todos los días piense que podría haber sido, fue la mejor decisión…

Maria

La decisión más difícil de mi vida

squaine123

Not in this alone

Luka

Hice lo mejor que pude, estando bajo toda la presión del mundo.

Lily

I had a medical abortion (the pill) with BPAS when I was just shy of 8 weeks.

SD

I had an abortion. It was in October of 2008, when I was 21. The guy I was…