Ewa Izabela

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I am pro-choice

2005 United Kingdom (born in Poland)

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

It was a hard and extremely difficult decision, and I had a lot of doubts, trying to find my way. Today I’m sure that was a right decision, and I don’t regret it, but I regret deeply that I had to loose a child. I was sad and crying for long time – as we are sad after someone loved died or left for ever, and we cannot help it. But I was right deciding that I wasn’t able to have a child at that moment.

How did you do the abortion?

I had my abortion in London, at Marie Stopes, where everyone was very professional, and supporting. My pregnancy was very early – 3,5 weeks, so I had just the pills. Normally the women have strong cramps and a lot of blood after them, but I didn’t. I was extremely stressed because of whole situation, and the night before taking pills I had cramps, and a lot of blood, and I thought it was a kind of miscarriage. So after pills nothing happened, no cramps, and almost no blood.

What was your situation at this time?

I had a boyfriend, who told me he was infertile. We were planning to adopt children in the future. I don’t know if he really meant that, or was just lying, but obviously he wasn’t infertile. When I told him I’m pregnant, he said he wasn’t going to stay with me, and he wanted me to abort, he left and stopped contacting me or answering my calls. I was shocked and destroyed by the offensive and extremely cruel way of treating me by someone, who before pretended to love me. I went through all possibilities to see if I’m able to have this child, and I decided that I’m not strong enough on my own (I don’t have supportive family, and my economical situation was quite bad).

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I am Polish, and for last 3 years I have been living and working in UK, where the abortion is legal. It was a great stress to face the abortion situation on my own (no support from the partner or family), and if I had an additional pressure from the legal order, I would feel in a lot bigger oppression. It was a great help and relief for me – while undertaking my decision – to know that I have a choice and don’t have to have a baby, and I was lucky not to face this situation in Poland, where the abortion is still illegal.

How did other people react to your abortion?

I was quite on my own, and had only one friend, who knew and supported me, which I'm very grateful for.

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Lea

Kobieto, jeśli zaszłaś w niechcianą ciążę, to nie wahaj się ani chwili. WOW…

Adriana

Myślałam, że będzie gorzej, na szczęście cały czas była ze mną moja druga…

María

Jamás sabré si fue la mejor decisión, jamás lo podré conocer, pero en este…

chanel

I did it because as a female that is my right to control my body no man or…

Vicky

I had an abortion

Ruth

Zaczełao sie (wiadomo) od dwóch kresek i przerażenia. Szukałam możliwości…

Rachel

I had an abortion. And I would do it again, if I was me at that time back then…

Estefanía

Si se lo pudiera decir a alguien sin que me juzgue no me sentiría así

Lisa

I always thought I cannot be pregnant, as I was diagnosed with primal…

serena serena

Yo aborte. No culpo por haberlo hecho, sino por no haberme cuidado. Desde el…

Willem Velthoven

I had several abortions. And children too!

Annabelle Carton

j´ai eu un avortement

Ana Lu

e vida nova pela frente...

Mulher

Uma escolha pra vida!

Maiara Rejane

Não havia outra alternativa.
Dia 02 de Julho, voltava de uma festa, havia bebido…

Uma Mulher

Pra mim, fazer um aborto foi um ato de responsabilidade

sorrow

Najtragiczniejsze doświadczenie w życiu...


Po prawie dziesięciu miesiącach od…

Han

Don’t confuse ‘what ifs’ with regret.

XHTarv

Too selfish, and ok with that for now.

Sabine Ryan

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