Victoria

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2008

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

I was relieved and happy to find everything had worked. But I did and do still feel guilty. I think it's a natural reaction. As women we are programmed to want children, so I did feel that it was a part of me and something I should be caring for. But I did the right thing.

How did you do the abortion?

Well, it worked. Not without a lot of pain and anxiety beforehand though. The biggest worry was waiting for the medicines to arrive, but I was well supported by my friends and the women on web service so my experience was as good as can be.

What was your situation at this time?

I was travelling on the other side of the world. I had no money, no boyfriend, no stability whatsoever. I felt guilty about having an abortion, but I would have felt more guilty if I had brought a child into the world and not been able to give it a comfortable upbringing. I did consider adoption, but I ruled it out because I didn't want to put my family through the anguish (I think my Mum would have had a very strong opposition to her grandchild being given up for adoption). Although I could have stayed in Chile to complete an adoption, I was living with a family and wasn't about to impose on them in such a way.

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I suppose it did because it meant that I actually questioned my decision because of its illegality, because the opposing argument was to be heard everywhere due to Chile's Catholic culture. If I had been in England, I wouldn't have been exposed to opposing opinions so I wouldn't have even considered them. I was also working for a women's rights organisation at the time so that meant I had access to all the information and statistics about Chile's abortion laws. It's one of only 3 countries in the world (together with Nicaragua and Guatemala) where there is no option for abortion, even if the woman is raped, her health is at risk or if the baby will not survive outside of the womb. Now, more than ever, I support a woman's right to decide for herself and it truly disgusts me that a government could impose a law that could change people's lives so greatly. While I was pregnant, I used to see girls far younger than me pushing 3 babies around and I knew how lucky I was to be able to make the choice to at least get on a plane and go to a country where it was legal. Even if I couldn't, I was from the rich part of Chilean society and though ilegal, rich women can find abortions. It's the inequality and lack of education that sets these girls apart so that some don't even know how to prevent pregnancy. That's truly shocking, but what's more shocking is that a lot of educated and open minded people won't accept that as a reason, preferring to think the girls are just stupid.

How did other people react to your abortion?

Everyone I confided in was extremely supportive. I will admit though, that I didn't tell people who I didn't think would support me for fear of making the lives of those around me difficult.

Do you have children?

What is your religion?

Beth

No estaba 10% segura pero lo hice,
Yo aborte.

María

Aborté y no me arrepiento. I do not regret my abortion.

Isabelle

Bom, estou escrevendo aqui pois os relatos de vocês que me deram forças. Eu não…

Sarah Menezes

Abortamento

Adhi

Saya masih duduk di kelas 3 SMA saat melakukan aborsi. Saya sudah pacaran…

Anon

I had an abortion at 15...and my life is still going well

ana maria Duque

I had an abortion but this wasn't easy I was very afraid, but i never regret…

Maria

Sou dona de mim.

Ana Luiza

A ironia entre abortar e renascer.

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znów mogę cieszyć się życiem...

*De*

Fiz um aborto

Montse

"Un acto amoroso"

Mariela

Aunque me cueste decirlo, yo aborté

Andrea

Cuando tenia 19 años, "me enamore" de un tipo casado, quede embarazada y el lo…

Maria sovitlana

i really cant believe that i can do it in a country where so much hard law…

Yana

I had an abortion-it was a difficult decision...

Rachel

I had an abortion. And I would do it again, if I was me at that time back then…

Elizabeth

I had an abortion.

Kah

Decisões difíceis exigem coragem.