Nthati

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It was a difficult but necessary choice to have made.

2016 South Africa

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

Upon finding out that I was pregnant, I should’ve been excited. But I wasn’t, I found myself crying and uncontrollably sad in the bathroom as the test came out clearly positive. I knew I wasn’t ready for this child. I knew I should’ve been more careful. And the saddest part, is I knew that my child wasn’t coming into a good union. My partner flat out ignored me for a week after I told him that I was pregnant. I felt so rejected and hurt, I knew I wasn’t ready for a baby, even though it was my first pregnancy but I needed the emotional support of someone who sold me the wildest dreams of love. I took the decision to head out to Marie stopes to get the pregnancy terminated as early as I could. I was 5 weeks along and they gave me the medical abortion pills to take at home. The nurses were very friendly and supportive, they were informative and kind to a young woman in need of assurance that everything would go well. I took the first pill at the Marie Stopes premises and the nurse talked me throughout what was expected to happen at home. She did her best to assure me that I would be fine, and should I not be- I can call to seek emergency help. Nothing could prepare me for what the next four pills were about to do to my body. Within 39 minutes of taking them, I was shivering, throwing up and having diarrhea all at once. I felt dizzy and had such terrible pains that I didn’t know whether to stand straight, lie down or cower into a foetal position. I began to cramp so horribly, I started crying and thought maybe I should call an ambulance cos I might be dying. After lying down, throwing up with a bucket right next to me- I began to bleed heavily. The pains were starting to subside, but the bleeding was basically gushing at this point. I was lying down and I felt a small mass in my legs, on my pad, which I assumed was the baby. I went into the toilet and cleaned myself up. I am never doing this sh*t to myself again. Overall, I was relieved when it was all over. But I was disappointed in myself that I wasn’t more careful. The experience had made me more empathetic and I wish I could be there for other young women who have no choice but to go the illegal route. Please don’t be hard on yourself and pray for healing everyday. Love and Light to all, ashe.

How did you do the abortion?

I had a medical abortion using two sets of Pills administered by Marie Stopes.

What was your situation at this time?

Bagaimana reaksi orang lain terhadap pengguguran anda?

Supportive of my decision although I only told my friends. My colleagues thought it was a miscarriage.

legal/illegal

What is your religion?

Fernanda Santos

Tentativa de aborto/Gravides tubária Sem saber!!! 7 semanas!
Reencontrei um ex

Catarina Fernando

Tenho 18 anos e os meus pais nunca iriam aceitar que eu tivesse um filho com…

Kate

and I'm so relieved

Mariana C

Estava grávida de 08 semanas e não sabia!

mayumi uehara

Fiz.não me arrependo e contei com a ajuda da ong, o que foi essencial para que…

Emmy Smith

It was the best decision of my life

Montse

"Un acto amoroso"

Adriana Reyes

Hola mi nombre es Adriana tengo 22 años y soy estudiante de Pedagogía; quisiera…

Pippa

I had 2 abortiona in the space of a year...

was 20 nearrly 21 i hadnt had a…

Anna K.

nie żałuję,

Ania Kijawska

Mam dziecko, dom, męża zdecydowałam się na aborcję.

Gadzinka

Moja aborcja przemineła tak jak miała , wziełam tabletki potem dojadałam .

noha

y la verdad para mi fue un alivio, esto comenzó un el mismo dia que decidi…

A .

16 semanas de terror

laMaga

Pense en el bienestar de los 2

keira

Chcę mieć kontrolę. Zrobiłam to i NIE ŻAŁUJĘ.

Wzięłam pierwszą tabletkę, czułam…

Ella

I was so scared but it was right and I know deep in my heart now.

J D

My now husband and I got pregnant the first time we slept together. We were…

Sam

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