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My abortions defined my life choices for decades

1986 États-Unis

Quels étaient vos sentiments au sujet de faire l'avortement / s?

I was “that” girl that everyone didn’t want to be friends with and having been raised in a very dysfunctional family where no love was expressed physically I validated myself by having sex with men. I was rejected by most men unless they wanted sex from me and I naively played with fire. I had my first abortion at age 22 and my second at age 23, both in clinics that I found in the phone book. I told no one, except for one person who knew me and my family situation. It took me decades to process what happened to me because I was unaware of how to get support and I didn’t feel safe revealing this to anyone. My career choices and educational goals were affected by both my abortions and I’ve never had a functional romantic relationship workout. The shame of having an abortion, combined with the lack of community and family support as well as constant denial of my emontions led me down a path of needing an outlet for my pain and anger-so I put my energies into sports. I had always been a gifted athlete and I spent my entire later 20’s getting a college degree and pursuing athletics. Society defines women as “good” or “bad” and in many countries not having children labels women as sinister, selfish beings. Personally, I don’t trust many women and most men enough to share my history and it takes a great deal of convincing to make me believe a person really would understand my experience or choices. It’s because most people are culturally conditioned to criticize everything women do, how they look and so forth. Now I am 54 and I’m invisible in most parts of society and nobody cares about my reproductivity anymore and all focus is on youth. My thoughts about the world—-I believe that education can create a strong, enlightened culture. We have the potential for a worldwide movement that can save the planet but unfortunately the daily news shows that we are heading in a direction and depleting our resources with reckless abandon, much like I did in my own life leading up to my abortions. I live a quite, monastic life now and am trying to decrease my carbon footprint in the hopes to balance out the overpopulation on our planet. Peace.

Comment avez-vous fait l'avortement?

Both times were done in a clinic.

Quelle était votre situation à ce moment-là?

I did not want a child and both men told me they weren’t interested in a relationship with me.

Comment les autres personnes ont-elles réagi à votre avortement ?

Rejected me socially and emotionally. I hid it as best as I could but it changed me deeply. I hated myself for years and never had children because of it.

légal/illégal

What is your religion?

Yvonne

My abortion was what needed to be done at that time. Deep down me I know I…

Maria F M B

Yo aborte: Hoy en dia es difícil enfrentar la sanción moral que existe en…

Alyssa

Aborsi adalah satu satunya pilihan terberat yang aku putuskan. Ga mungkin untuk…

Gemma

The best decision for me.

Jess

This is something that was necessary for me but most definitely the hardest and…

Masha

This isn't my first abortion.... :'( My second one I am currently scheduled for.

Ana Lu

e vida nova pela frente...

Letícia

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Paula Paula

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Jes

No fue facil pero lo hise y me ha hido muy bien! Fue mi mejor decición!

Nichole Jeffers

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Aleja12-09

Por siempre y para siempre en mi mente.

Raqueli

misto de melancolia e alívio

carmilla

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Na

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noha

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