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Unexpected feelings

2019 United States

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

For an unexplainable reason I'm hurt by this loss. For some reason flushing down the toilet (literally), what could have been my baby felt wrong. I never dreamed I would think of an unthinking, unfeeling, thing the size of a raspberry, as .. . Deserving. As needing taken care of. As deserving not to be just thrown away. I totally respect everyone's choice but for some reason I grew an attachment to that thing inside of me. I knew I was pregnant before the missed period. I felt my body change and at first I felt punished. Trapped. scared. I was so worried about how to make it stop and get back to my old self I didn't realize I was also subconsciously feeling every second of that pregnancy. I guess it left some weird imprint on me. I don't know how to tell my partner that it still hurts me. He doesnt get it when I try to tell him that it was a huge experience for me and I need time to heal. I wish I was one of those people who just go on with their life like nothing happened but ive always been pretty sensitive

How did you do the abortion?

I had a medical abortion. With a heating pad and tramadol, the pain was bearable. The bleeding stopped after a week. Going back to work was extremely hard for me at first as my job is very physically demanding but I got through it.

What was your situation at this time?

Ngaba ukungabikho mthethweni kokuqhomfa kwakho kuchaphazele iimvakalelo zakho?

The protesters who were outside of every clinic visit, yelling "repent" and "it's not too late" with their giant pictures of fetuses and whatnot. .. to the recent string of abortion/birth control bans and criminalization. I was so afraid I wouldn't have access to choice (I do thanks to the acula and pp and organizations like women have options who helped me AFFORD it). And after the abortion I feel less angry at those ignorant prolifers, I feel more.. grief. Which is their objective I'm sure. ..

Benze ntoni abanye abantu xa ukhupha isisu?

Indifferent/ nonchalant. My partner and I have always agreed to an abortion in case an accident ever happened.. and it did. I'm not brave enough or ready to tell my mother. I need time. I never dreamed it would affect me this way. I drunkenly told one of my few female friends. I work in a male dominated field and most of my friends are male. I don't think any of them could react in a way that would be comforting or worth validation as they can't understand. So I haven't told anyone really. Guess that's why I'm here.

legal/illegal

What is your religion?

Julia

Razem z moich chłopakiem znamy się niecały rok , jest ode mnie młodszy o 4 lata…

Grace Grace

Y no existe arrepentimiento.

Kristina Brandon

‪#‎StandWithPP‬ I never wanted kids. I got pregnant in college when I was 17.

Kyky

Your Dreams Are Real, So Are Abortions.

Cristina Lima

Fiz um aborto.

Rachelle

I have had 3 abortions, one clinical, 2 medical. I do not regret those…

EV

I had an abortion and I do not regret my choice. It is very important to me to…

Mary Adler

Saya hamil 7minggu. Saya seorang muslim dan pacar saya seorang yang menganut…

M

At first i didn't know i was pregnant until i noticed i was vomiting a lot, but…

Kah

Decisões difíceis exigem coragem.

Beth Smith

I was with my parter for three and a half years when i fell pregnant. I was…

Klaudia

Miałam aborcję i nie żałuję! Znowu czuję, że żyję. Opowiem wam w skrócie moją…

Charlotte Sigler

I had an abortion

mary cry

pior momento de minha vida

Cacau

O aborto é uma escolha apenas da MULHER.

Andrea

Cuando tenia 19 años, "me enamore" de un tipo casado, quede embarazada y el lo…

Natasha

I had come off the contraceptive pill as it had me feeling un well, we thought…