Eléonore Delmas

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I had an abortion

1994 France (பிறந்தார் France)

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp

How did you do the abortion?

I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.

What was your situation at this time?

I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.

உங்கள் கருக்கலைப்பு சட்டவிரோதமானது உங்கள் உணர்வுகளை பாதித்ததா?

It was legal both times. I was relieved.

உங்கள் கருக்கலைப்புக்கு மற்றவர்கள் எவ்வாறு பதிலளித்தனர்?

I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.

Do you have children?

What is your religion?

Jennifer

Sin duda ha sido la decisión más difícil que he tomado en lo que llevo de vida

Mandy Amanda

Hora de recomeçar

Kamila

Ożyłam

Lucy

No me arrepiento

Zosia

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andrea ka

Yo aborte

Julia

Uratowałam sobie życie

Elena

No fue tan terrible.

Anonimowa

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a.

Początek był raczej standardowy - spóźnił mi się okres, zrobiłam test ciążowy

magdalena

Miałam aborcje. Dzięki pomocy i wyrozumiałości women on web uda mi się to.

Maleja

Yo aborté.

Nami Tibbers

Não vi outra opção. Então tomei coragem e optei por um aborto.

Samanta

Uma escolha difícil.

Joanna

Moje życie to moje wybory. / My life is my choices.

Zoe

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Ana Lu

e vida nova pela frente...

alexandra

j´ai eu un avortement

Angel M

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