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Don’t confuse ‘what ifs’ with regret.

2016 United Kingdom

Sometimes I feel selfish, but then I stop and tell myself, no it’s my body and my life. I don’t regret what I did and need to stop letting the what ifs get into my head!!

The process itself was straight forward in terms of how everything went about. But for me mentally and physically it was horrendous. I knew as soon as I found out I was pregnant that I didn’t want the baby. I wasn’t ready. I’d just handed my notice in at work and my partner and i were going travelling later that year for 12 months. Like I said, the process was straightforward. I met with my GP who gave me the number of a clinic I had to ring. I made an appointment, had a scan and discussed options. The nursing staff were incredibly friendly and non judgemental. It felt like a very warm environment. My first option was the pill. I could have taken one then and come back the following day and taken another one, but because I’d already lied to work about where I was, the fact I worked an hour away and the fact I was a teacher, I couldn’t go through with it. So because of time restraints my second option was minor surgery to remove the fetus. It was painful, and both during and after. After a few hours there was a lot of a blood and the cramps were horrendous. There is still a stigma around abortion and because of that I’ve lived with this secret for almost 2 years. Because of the stigma I couldn’t tell my boss so I had to go back to work the next day and teach 32 ten year olds whilst I was in incredible pain and still miscarrying.

How did other people react to your abortion?

The only person who knows about the abortion was my partner at the time. Something I’ve found difficult since I made my decision was coping with the fact he didn’t want me to go through with it. It’s something he held against me for the rest of our relationship.

Nami Tibbers

Não vi outra opção. Então tomei coragem e optei por um aborto.

Bri

I knew I was pregnant as soon as I was around two weeks. I had never been…

Mulher

Uma escolha pra vida!

Joanna

Moje życie to moje wybory. / My life is my choices.

Mary

I can now carry on with life.

Mitzi .

I had an abortion. And i know that was the best choice.

Lauren Jackson

I got pregnant while in college in Tennessee in 1976 and had an illegal…

Fran

YO DECIDÍ

SD

I had an abortion. It was in October of 2008, when I was 21. The guy I was…

Sara

Postanowiłam opisać swoją historię, ponieważ historie innych kobiet bardo dużo…

Ianne

A cry of freedom for all women who are dictated by the mentality of the norms…

Daisy

Miałam aborcję. I nie jestem z tego dumna.
19 lutego 2020 roku zrobiłam test…

Maria sovitlana

i really cant believe that i can do it in a country where so much hard law…

Ruth

Zaczełao sie (wiadomo) od dwóch kresek i przerażenia. Szukałam możliwości…

Na

Pois tenho direito de escolher o que é melhor pra mim! O importante é não se…

Laura

I had a surgical abortion at Planned Parenthood in Beacon, NY at 4 weeks.

elusabeth

I had an abortion

Maree

It was sad but necessary

M. .

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