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Unexpected feelings

2019 United States

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

For an unexplainable reason I'm hurt by this loss. For some reason flushing down the toilet (literally), what could have been my baby felt wrong. I never dreamed I would think of an unthinking, unfeeling, thing the size of a raspberry, as .. . Deserving. As needing taken care of. As deserving not to be just thrown away. I totally respect everyone's choice but for some reason I grew an attachment to that thing inside of me. I knew I was pregnant before the missed period. I felt my body change and at first I felt punished. Trapped. scared. I was so worried about how to make it stop and get back to my old self I didn't realize I was also subconsciously feeling every second of that pregnancy. I guess it left some weird imprint on me. I don't know how to tell my partner that it still hurts me. He doesnt get it when I try to tell him that it was a huge experience for me and I need time to heal. I wish I was one of those people who just go on with their life like nothing happened but ive always been pretty sensitive

How did you do the abortion?

I had a medical abortion. With a heating pad and tramadol, the pain was bearable. The bleeding stopped after a week. Going back to work was extremely hard for me at first as my job is very physically demanding but I got through it.

What was your situation at this time?

ඔබේ ගබ්සාව නීති විරෝධී වීම ඔබේ හැඟීම්වලට බලපෑවාද?

The protesters who were outside of every clinic visit, yelling "repent" and "it's not too late" with their giant pictures of fetuses and whatnot. .. to the recent string of abortion/birth control bans and criminalization. I was so afraid I wouldn't have access to choice (I do thanks to the acula and pp and organizations like women have options who helped me AFFORD it). And after the abortion I feel less angry at those ignorant prolifers, I feel more.. grief. Which is their objective I'm sure. ..

ඔබේ ගබ්සාවට අනෙක් අය ප්‍රතිචාර දැක්වූයේ කෙසේද?

Indifferent/ nonchalant. My partner and I have always agreed to an abortion in case an accident ever happened.. and it did. I'm not brave enough or ready to tell my mother. I need time. I never dreamed it would affect me this way. I drunkenly told one of my few female friends. I work in a male dominated field and most of my friends are male. I don't think any of them could react in a way that would be comforting or worth validation as they can't understand. So I haven't told anyone really. Guess that's why I'm here.

legal/illegal

What is your religion?

Uma Mulher

Pra mim, fazer um aborto foi um ato de responsabilidade

Angela

Pregnancy and abortion - what a trip.

Constanza Arely

El ser madre debe ser una decisión, una de las mejores experiencias que vive…

Elizabeth

I had an abortion.

Marcela

Es más una historia de amor, que de un aborto pero posiblemente en algo te…

AS

I am having an abortion as I am writing this, at home with cytotec…

Bree

It was the right decision just hard than i thought it would to deal with

Aysella

Abortions are not fun !

Eléonore Delmas

I had an abortion

Lily

I had a medical abortion (the pill) with BPAS when I was just shy of 8 weeks.

Ka

O dono do meu corpo e do meu destino sou eu, e não a sociedade hipócrita e…

Ana

Fiz um aborto e não me arrependo. O meu desejo é que todas as mulheres tenham…

mimi

mi aborto. siempre te voy a recordar pequeña semillita

Liz Price

I had an abortion

Miriam

The 10 weeks I was pregnant were the happiest weeks of my life. My husband

Andy

Decidí sobre mi futuro.

Paloma

Decidida, sin culpa ni arrepentimiento, soy fiel a mi misma.