Ewa Izabela

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I am pro-choice

2005 United Kingdom (ඉපදුනේ Poland)

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

It was a hard and extremely difficult decision, and I had a lot of doubts, trying to find my way. Today I’m sure that was a right decision, and I don’t regret it, but I regret deeply that I had to loose a child. I was sad and crying for long time – as we are sad after someone loved died or left for ever, and we cannot help it. But I was right deciding that I wasn’t able to have a child at that moment.

How did you do the abortion?

I had my abortion in London, at Marie Stopes, where everyone was very professional, and supporting. My pregnancy was very early – 3,5 weeks, so I had just the pills. Normally the women have strong cramps and a lot of blood after them, but I didn’t. I was extremely stressed because of whole situation, and the night before taking pills I had cramps, and a lot of blood, and I thought it was a kind of miscarriage. So after pills nothing happened, no cramps, and almost no blood.

What was your situation at this time?

I had a boyfriend, who told me he was infertile. We were planning to adopt children in the future. I don’t know if he really meant that, or was just lying, but obviously he wasn’t infertile. When I told him I’m pregnant, he said he wasn’t going to stay with me, and he wanted me to abort, he left and stopped contacting me or answering my calls. I was shocked and destroyed by the offensive and extremely cruel way of treating me by someone, who before pretended to love me. I went through all possibilities to see if I’m able to have this child, and I decided that I’m not strong enough on my own (I don’t have supportive family, and my economical situation was quite bad).

ඔබේ ගබ්සාව නීති විරෝධී වීම ඔබේ හැඟීම්වලට බලපෑවාද?

I am Polish, and for last 3 years I have been living and working in UK, where the abortion is legal. It was a great stress to face the abortion situation on my own (no support from the partner or family), and if I had an additional pressure from the legal order, I would feel in a lot bigger oppression. It was a great help and relief for me – while undertaking my decision – to know that I have a choice and don’t have to have a baby, and I was lucky not to face this situation in Poland, where the abortion is still illegal.

ඔබේ ගබ්සාවට අනෙක් අය ප්‍රතිචාර දැක්වූයේ කෙසේද?

I was quite on my own, and had only one friend, who knew and supported me, which I'm very grateful for.

legal/illegal

Do you have children?

What is your religion?

Mar Tina

Todo es muy reciente ... estoy recuperandome hace tan solo dos dias que sucedio.

Constanza

Aborto seguro, entorno amoroso

Emily

It isn't and shouldn't be as taboo as it is made out to be.

Vanessa Behrens

Decisión personal

Paegan

I had a SUPER LATE abortion.

SouthernBelle

No Regrets.

C123

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Jess

*No podía ser* 11sem

Ka

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Jess

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Felicia

I had an abortion, so that I could heal.

R. P.

Força, meninas, que tudo se ajeita!

Zoe

I had an abortion. It was a stressful time, I am glad it is all behind me. My…

Machilla

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Freedom77

I was lucky enough to be able to have an NHS surgical termination at 8 weeks.

Irina

Cuando miro para atrás, más se afirma la certeza de que hice lo correcto.