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2013 Соединенное Королевство

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

I fell pregnant when my daughter was only 3 months old. She had been unplanned and the decision between me and my boyfriend to have her had been a hard one as we'd only been together 6 months, were both on benefits, I suffer with mental health problems and he has arthritis. We didn't want to have the abortion but we were so worried about how we would manage with two babies so close in age, and so ashamed to tell people about another unplanned pregnancy. So we decided to go ahead with the abortion. I felt very sad but sure it was the right decision for us. I'd always been pro choice and very against the illegality of abortion in Ireland, I felt very lucky to be living in England and to have the choice. We didn't tell family or friends what was going on as we were too ashamed, so we didn't have anyone to babysit and brought the baby with us and my boyfriend stayed in the car with her while I went in alone which made it even harder. Then back at home I curled up in bed and just felt so sad and guilty. Looking at my beautiful little girl was so hard, I was so torn. At one point I went to change my pad after a large clot passed and I realised it was the amniotic sac. I was devastated to basically be looking at what would've become my baby and I broke down in tears. I think that moment has traumatised me, I was numb and unable to think or talk about it for a long time after. I told my sister a few months ago and she was so upset I didn't feel I could come to her. I wish I had. It's really hard to do without the support of the people close to you. I hope I never have to go through it again but I know if I was unfortunate enough to end up in the same situation I probably would. It's heartbreaking but we had to weigh up all the factors for us as a family and ultimately although it was devastating for us, it was the right choice. I just wish it wasn't so taboo and shameful as then so many people like me wouldn't bury the pain and end up not properly dealing with it.

How did you do the abortion?

I found it very traumatic.

What was your situation at this time?

Как другие люди отреагировали на ваш аборт?

I didn't tell anyone other than the dad, my boyfriend, and he was supportive

legal/illegal

What is your religion?

Matka Winna

Moja historia

Georgina

Punto y coma.

Cs

Porque la situación lo requería

Luna

Aún grito perdón

Belen

Mi experiencia con Oxaprost. 7 semanas.

Frances

Feeling like myself again

Martina Martina

Un acto irresponsable pero a la vez un sentimiento de alivio.

luz

getting thru the pain.

Abril Violeta

cuando tenía 24 años, recién terminaba la licenciatura, estaba desempleada, en…

Sara

Tome la decisión ya que anteriormente (a los 15 años) ya había tenido un…

Leah

I was twenty years old, terrified, and completely alone.

josie

I had an abortion and now feel I have 10kgs off my shoulders alone, a little…

laura

Mi experiencia

Paulette De los reyes

Decidi lo mejor para las dos

Teaser

Nunca hubiera querido estar en esa encrucijada

Tiffany

I am still healing from my decision - it really is a wide range of emotions.

kimsamsoon

It was less painful than expected