I had an abortion
1994 Франция (родившийся France)
What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?
Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp
How did you do the abortion?
I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.
What was your situation at this time?
I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.
Незаконность аборта повлияла на ваши чувства?
It was legal both times. I was relieved.
Как другие люди отреагировали на ваш аборт?
I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.
Do you have children?
What is your religion?
Friday, July 13th, 2012
Hmm, he was supposed to be here by now… I sigh…
Yo interrumpí un embarazo no deseado.
I had an abortion, and i should not have to hide it. My womb is still just fine.
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It isn't and shouldn't be as taboo as it is made out to be.
Wieść o ciąży była dla mnie szokiem, ale mogłam się jej spodziewać bo niestety…
I had an abortion. And i know that was the best choice.
Fiz um aborto, foi uma escolha. Apesar do medo, foi muito tranquilo e não me…
A cry of freedom for all women who are dictated by the mentality of the norms…
I had a surgical abortion at Planned Parenthood in Beacon, NY at 4 weeks.
Something that has carried with me ever since.
Historia właściwie była dość typowa, sex, pęknięta gumka, spóźniający się okres