Ella

Deel je ervaring

I was so scared but it was right and I know deep in my heart now.

2014 Nieuw Zeeland

Hoe voelde je je over de abortus?

While I was pregnant I felt a great deal of things but, because of the length of the process and being so sure when it happened, I knew I'd made the right decision. Right now it's one week on and things have been a bit up and down but on the whole I am feeling relieved, and happy to make these decisions later on in life.

How did you do the abortion?

I choose a medically induced abortion. I wanted to do this because it was at home where it was private and I felt safe. The most frightening time was putting the pills in. I had to do that myself and I was shaking so much I didn't think I could. I did it though and I knew there was no going back. The contractions got progressively more painful and I started bleeding almost straight away. I locked myself in the bathroom as I neared the time I was going to pass the pregnancy. This was stupid in retrospect but all I could think about was the shame. Unfortunately I had a reaction to the painkiller meds or something like that and had to call my partner in because I was having blurred vision and thought I was going to hemorrhage. My partner called the hospital while this was happening but everything was going to be okay. I didn't realise with all the pain and dizzying effects of the reaction when I passed the pregnancy. I had wanted to bury its remains, but I just didn't know when it happened. Eventually I realised the contractions were decreasing but I was too exhausted to tell my partner. I would lie on my knees to rest on the relief sides of the contractions until the pain started again. Eventually I got up enough energy to tell my partner I was okay, and to move to the bed. I was so exhausted afterwards. I slept for a few hours. I was most suprised by feelings of immediate relief, and *knowing* straight away I wasn't pregnant anymore.

What was your situation at this time?

Had de illegaliteit van je abortus invloed op je gevoelens?

Yes, even though it was legal I had to go through many appointments and referrals. Every time I had to explain and defend my reasons for wanting this. It was hard but it could have been so much worse. I was so relieved that the hospital and clinic were so supportive, kind, and understanding. I couldn't help thinking how much worse it could have been for me.

Hoe reageerden andere mensen op je abortus?

I only told my mum and my current partner and I was four weeks in before I told anyone. I was scared to tell them at all I just thought I could do it all myself. But their reactions were beautiful and so unexpected. They treated me with so much love and were towers of strength throughout the entire process.

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What is your religion?

Mary

YO ABORTE CON CYTOTEC, con ayuda de una chica de un grupo de apoyo de méxico.

Ana

Fiz um aborto e não me arrependo. O meu desejo é que todas as mulheres tenham…

Ronnie

because the time just wasn't right for me.

Han

Don’t confuse ‘what ifs’ with regret.

deedee

한국에 계신 분들 걱정마십쇼!! 낙심하시 마시고 자신을 믿으세요!

Meg

My abortion was NOT THAT PAINFUL. Don't believe in the horror stories!

AS

I am having an abortion as I am writing this, at home with cytotec…

Layla Sesey

I had an abortion when i was 19 yrs . I last saw my period in December till…

Charlie

An abortion in an abusive relationship

Abril Violeta

cuando tenía 24 años, recién terminaba la licenciatura, estaba desempleada, en…

Ania Kijawska

Mam dziecko, dom, męża zdecydowałam się na aborcję.

keira

Chcę mieć kontrolę. Zrobiłam to i NIE ŻAŁUJĘ.

Wzięłam pierwszą tabletkę, czułam…

katrina nicole

the only time i look back is to say thank god

Lea

Kobieto, jeśli zaszłaś w niechcianą ciążę, to nie wahaj się ani chwili. WOW…

Jane

I had 2 abortions

Marta M.

Dokonałam aborcji

mery elizabeth

tomando la decisión de mi vida