Claudia Aviles

Deel je ervaring

i had an abortion, and 10 years later i became a mother. you have the right to decide whenever you are ready to take that huge step.

1994 Chilie (geboren in Chile)

Hoe voelde je je over de abortus?

at first i felt very relieved, even happy (i was a teenager!). but then i had to have a surgical procedure to remove tissue that remained from the abortion, and that night i spent in Maternity was very sad. i felt guilty when i heard all the babies crying, and i thought i was the worst person on earth, and that i'd never get the chance to be a mother again. i was very sad for some weeks, then i began to process all that i had through. it took me some time, but finally i realized that, even when a baby brings a lot of love and joy to your life, if you're not prepared to face the huge responsibility involved in being a mother, it's better not to bring a baby to a life of suffering or abandon. ten years later, i became a mother for the first time. i had a career as a therapist, a good job, a supportive partner, and enough peace of mind to face that challenge. i was ready. now i'm the proud mother of two beautiful kids that have everything they need, and of course all my love and care.

How did you do the abortion?

i had to cross the border and go to Peru, where they had plenty of illegal clinics where you paid to get a surgical abortion, about 500 dollars at that time. unfortunately, the doctor didn't do it properly and i had to attend to the local hospital later, with an infection because of the remaining tissue.

What was your situation at this time?

i was only 19 years old, i had no job, no money, no career, no husband or partner... and as if it wasn't enough, i had a major depression that i wasn't treating because i couldn't afford a therapist.

Had de illegaliteit van je abortus invloed op je gevoelens?

of course it did, i felt like i was a criminal for defending my right to decide. even now i can't talk about this freely, people in this country is very judgmental about abortion. i remember that i was afraid that the police could know what i did and arrest me... the fear dissappeared only when time made my abortion prescribe as a crime.

Hoe reageerden andere mensen op je abortus?

this is something i don't talk about very often, because many people react as if i was an immoral person, and others feel just uncomfortable with that issue. my family supported me by paying for the procedure, but they never wanted to talk about it again. my friends have always been very loving and understanding, and they were very important to overcome the sad feelings that sometimes come with that experience.

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Do you have children?

What is your religion?

Fernanda

Descobri que estava grávida no dia do meu aniversário, na época, sem nenhum…

Vivian

I had an abortion 6 months ago.My boyfriend and I were not ready to have a baby.

Maree

It was sad but necessary

Dana Bronte

Muerte de un ángel.

Fer

100% segura

Agnieszka

Miałam aborcję - nie żałuję

Krysti

While I was on a 3-month vacation in Europe I met a guy and we quickly fell for…

Marcela

Es más una historia de amor, que de un aborto pero posiblemente en algo te…

Amy Martinez

I had an abortion

Bia

E no começo me arrependi mas vi que seria a melhor opção, e escrevendo meu…

Alex

Never felt so relieved in my life. I owe everything to planned parenthood and…

Jamie

And I am so happy! I am so lucky that I had the choice to have an abortion! The…

Constanza

Pensé en su posible futuro y en el mío, era la mejor decisión...

Fallen Angel

I had the SAFEST ABORTION even in the PHILIPPINES through womenonweb.org.

inteldeath

It was the right decision, and it is my choice.

Maria

Sou dona de mim.

Mariana Leitão

A tal história do “ engravidei por acidente” é real!

Paloma

Decidida, sin culpa ni arrepentimiento, soy fiel a mi misma.

alexandra

j´ai eu un avortement

Lili

I interrupted my early pregnancy