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My abortions defined my life choices for decades

1986 Verenigde Staten

Hoe voelde je je over de abortus?

I was “that” girl that everyone didn’t want to be friends with and having been raised in a very dysfunctional family where no love was expressed physically I validated myself by having sex with men. I was rejected by most men unless they wanted sex from me and I naively played with fire. I had my first abortion at age 22 and my second at age 23, both in clinics that I found in the phone book. I told no one, except for one person who knew me and my family situation. It took me decades to process what happened to me because I was unaware of how to get support and I didn’t feel safe revealing this to anyone. My career choices and educational goals were affected by both my abortions and I’ve never had a functional romantic relationship workout. The shame of having an abortion, combined with the lack of community and family support as well as constant denial of my emontions led me down a path of needing an outlet for my pain and anger-so I put my energies into sports. I had always been a gifted athlete and I spent my entire later 20’s getting a college degree and pursuing athletics. Society defines women as “good” or “bad” and in many countries not having children labels women as sinister, selfish beings. Personally, I don’t trust many women and most men enough to share my history and it takes a great deal of convincing to make me believe a person really would understand my experience or choices. It’s because most people are culturally conditioned to criticize everything women do, how they look and so forth. Now I am 54 and I’m invisible in most parts of society and nobody cares about my reproductivity anymore and all focus is on youth. My thoughts about the world—-I believe that education can create a strong, enlightened culture. We have the potential for a worldwide movement that can save the planet but unfortunately the daily news shows that we are heading in a direction and depleting our resources with reckless abandon, much like I did in my own life leading up to my abortions. I live a quite, monastic life now and am trying to decrease my carbon footprint in the hopes to balance out the overpopulation on our planet. Peace.

How did you do the abortion?

Both times were done in a clinic.

What was your situation at this time?

I did not want a child and both men told me they weren’t interested in a relationship with me.

Hoe reageerden andere mensen op je abortus?

Rejected me socially and emotionally. I hid it as best as I could but it changed me deeply. I hated myself for years and never had children because of it.

legaal/illegaal

What is your religion?

Mónica

Aborté por motivos de edad (demasiado joven)y económicos (era estudiante y no…

Maree

It was sad but necessary

Juliette

j´ai avorté.

Maria

La decisión más difícil de mi vida

Daniela

No era el momento, no me arrepiento.

Madison

Una lucha constante.

Eli

Difícil decisión

Emily

10 years ago, at age 32, I had an abortion. The pregnancy was unplanned and I…

Sadie

I had been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we are in our early 30s now. 

My…

Tanya

I was not in a stable relationship and was already raising a daughter on my own.

Hikaru

I had an abortion

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Liz

Eu tinha 22 anos, minha menstruação atrasou e meus seios estavam muito inchados.

Morrigan

I don't regret it. It was one of the wisest decisions I ever made in my life. I'…

julie

My life became changed

Letícia

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Foi esse dia que eu descobri que estava…

Bree

It was the right decision just hard than i thought it would to deal with

Mabel

Mabel

Nichole Jeffers

Being allergic to latex I became pregnant multiple times before I was 20 having…

Angela

Pregnancy and abortion - what a trip.