Eléonore Delmas

Deel je ervaring

I had an abortion

1994 Frankrijk (geboren in France)

Hoe voelde je je over de abortus?

Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp

How did you do the abortion?

I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.

What was your situation at this time?

I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.

Had de illegaliteit van je abortus invloed op je gevoelens?

It was legal both times. I was relieved.

Hoe reageerden andere mensen op je abortus?

I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.

Do you have children?

What is your religion?

Jéssica Santos

Me submeti ao aborto!

Dani

Because I NEEDED TO DO IT!
Some may say I was selfish, other may say I'm going…

B.

Uma decisão que precisa ser feita rápida porém pensada

carmilla

J'ai avorté quand j'avais 18 ans. Je ne le regrette pas, je suis fière d'avoir…

Someone Great

It wasn’t the easiest thing, but it was the best thing I could have done for…

Jéssica

RELATO DE UM ABORTO BEM SUCEDIDO DE UMA MULHER SEM NOME:
Nunca pensei que…

Manuela L

E não me arrependo.

T.C.P

Bom, o espaço de tempo entre descobrir que estava gravida e realizar o aborto…

lolita

fui libre respecto esta decision

Andrea

It's your choice.

Mulher

Uma escolha pra vida!

sogoodtobebad stassia

Dziewczyny ! nie bójcie się ! nie taki diabeł straszny jak go malują. Jeżeli…

Emily

It isn't and shouldn't be as taboo as it is made out to be.

Allison

My abortion was 100% my choice.

G.

Zawsze miałam nieregularny okres, także tydzień spóźnienia nie dawał mi…

Naii C

Era apenas uma menina de 16 anos, não usava anticoncepcional mantinha relação…

Katarina

w wieku 20 lat. Byłam za młoda, mam wielkie plany na przyszłość, nie chciałam…

elusabeth

I had an abortion

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