Vanessa

Deel je ervaring

2005 Verenigde Staten

Hoe voelde je je over de abortus?

Some might say my SO talked me into it but it was more like he talked me out of making an un-fixable mistake. I always thought of kids as something a woman had to do as she grew up but once I sat down and really thought about it? I was never all that sure I ever wanted kids in the first place. Growing up thinking that being a mom was just what women did and then having to come to terms with the realization that that was not what the woman I became wanted at all soon enough to still be able to have a legal abortion caused some major internal turmoil and sure enough, there was some guilt. Even to this day I still think of how things might have been. But with every passing year I know more and more that I did the right thing; for myself, my partner, our very new relationship and the co-mingled DNA that, if I'm honest with myself, had the potential to become one seriously screwed up person having me as it's mother. If our spirits ever meet in another lifetime, I know it'll say thanks for saving me from that life. I will never be a mom and I'm fine with that and I hope to help as many women as possible realize they have that choice before they're stuck in a life they didn't want, with a child they weren't ever planning on.

How did you do the abortion?

I only had to go to the clinic to pick up the medicines and take the first dose under medical supervision. I won't lie and say it wasn't painful, it was like the worst period cramps amplified to 11 for me but pain is also subjective.The tissue passed as nothing more recognizable than an extremely heavy period. 3 days of pain and exhaustion was absolutely,100% worth it.

What was your situation at this time?

Hoe reageerden andere mensen op je abortus?

My mom stood by my decision but told me to never tell anyone else the truth because they will judge me even if they've known me a million times longer than I was ever pregnant. My best friend saw right through the story I made up (she is also in the medical field) and didn't flinch. I'll always be grateful for her, she helped me to feel unashamed. The father, a casual fling at the time and now my long-term partner of 10 years, was my rock and my common sense when the brainwashed narrative I grew up hearing tried to win out. I had friends who were willing to share their stories and helped me realize that abortions are much more common than anyone would have you believe. I'm very lucky to have had the support I had.

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What is your religion?

Irina

Cuando miro para atrás, más se afirma la certeza de que hice lo correcto.

Morrigan

I don't regret it. It was one of the wisest decisions I ever made in my life. I'…

Jane

I had 2 abortions

Gaby

No me arrepiento

Ezzah candra

Untuk kebaikan semua anggota keluarga

Sixtine

Tout choix à sa difficulté, le tout est d'assumer.

Ny

I just had my 3rd son 4 months prior finding out I was pregnant. I got a…

Machilla

“I had an abortion” will appear automatically, but please feel free to change…

Fer

100% segura

Sadie

I had been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we are in our early 30s now. 

My…

Francis

Una decisión consciente de vida

Ella

I was so scared but it was right and I know deep in my heart now.

Suzanne

I had an abortion

Angeli

I had an abortion

Gemma

The best decision for me.

Katarzyna

Nie mogłam mieć dziecka z kilku powodów: jeszcze się uczę, chłopak w ogóle nie…

Luka

Hice lo mejor que pude, estando bajo toda la presión del mundo.