Eléonore Delmas

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I had an abortion

1994 France (gimęs France)

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp

How did you do the abortion?

I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.

What was your situation at this time?

I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.

Ar jūsų abortų neteisėtumas paveikė jūsų jausmus?

It was legal both times. I was relieved.

Kaip kiti žmonės reagavo į jūsų abortą?

I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.

Do you have children?

What is your religion?

Lucy

No me arrepiento

E. Souza

Espero que ajude outras mulheres, pois assim como eu, no desespero, procurei…

Nih

Fiz um aborto com 13 semanas , não se desespere vai dar tudo certo !

YoungWoman from India

This website gave me the confidence that I could do it. It gave me all the…

Emily

It isn't and shouldn't be as taboo as it is made out to be.

Zoe

I had an abortion. It was a stressful time, I am glad it is all behind me. My…

C. Ferreira

Pior dia da minha vida

Angy :)

I decided to have an abortion, it wasnt easy but it was the best decision

Dominika

Historia jest dosyć banalna i podejrzewam, że nie ja jedna zaszłam w taki…

Sunny

To była moja druga aborcja. Jak się okazało, była dużo łatwiejsza, z…

Monoirmarie

Yo aborté porque es mi derecho

Lindsay Millett

I had an abortion

Gaby

No me arrepiento

Patricia Bronstein

I was married and had known since an early age that I did not want to be a…

Joanna

Moje życie to moje wybory. / My life is my choices.

Lea

Kobieto, jeśli zaszłaś w niechcianą ciążę, to nie wahaj się ani chwili. WOW…