Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

Alex

Never felt so relieved in my life. I owe everything to planned parenthood and…

Laura

I had a surgical abortion at Planned Parenthood in Beacon, NY at 4 weeks.

Rachelle

I have had 3 abortions, one clinical, 2 medical. I do not regret those…

Aguaperdida Pam

Fue una decisión muy difícil pero estoy segura de que fue la mejor.
Un embarazo

katrina nicole

the only time i look back is to say thank god

Rike

It was a birthday

Francis

Una decisión consciente de vida

Monoirmarie

Yo aborté porque es mi derecho

M

At first i didn't know i was pregnant until i noticed i was vomiting a lot, but…

Kyky

Your Dreams Are Real, So Are Abortions.

Delia

I had an abortion and it changed my life, for better and for worse.

Joice

Já é difícil criar 2 filhos, não conseguiria lidar com um terceiro..

Yvonne

My abortion was what needed to be done at that time. Deep down me I know I…

Claire

My first abortion took place when I was 19 and the second, when I was 26. I…

Yasmin Silva

Enfim, vou contar minha história com muita paz no meu coração e na minha vida.

Carol .

Acabei de começar minha carreira, não quero ser mãe nesse momento

Raquel Monterrey

I spoke with the spirit of my child before my abortion. That spirit who was…

Miqueyla

No me arrepiento de lo que hice. Abortar suena demasiado frío , asi que mejor…