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I am pro-choice

2005 Regno Unito (nato/a a Poland)

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

It was a hard and extremely difficult decision, and I had a lot of doubts, trying to find my way. Today I’m sure that was a right decision, and I don’t regret it, but I regret deeply that I had to loose a child. I was sad and crying for long time – as we are sad after someone loved died or left for ever, and we cannot help it. But I was right deciding that I wasn’t able to have a child at that moment.

How did you do the abortion?

I had my abortion in London, at Marie Stopes, where everyone was very professional, and supporting. My pregnancy was very early – 3,5 weeks, so I had just the pills. Normally the women have strong cramps and a lot of blood after them, but I didn’t. I was extremely stressed because of whole situation, and the night before taking pills I had cramps, and a lot of blood, and I thought it was a kind of miscarriage. So after pills nothing happened, no cramps, and almost no blood.

What was your situation at this time?

I had a boyfriend, who told me he was infertile. We were planning to adopt children in the future. I don’t know if he really meant that, or was just lying, but obviously he wasn’t infertile. When I told him I’m pregnant, he said he wasn’t going to stay with me, and he wanted me to abort, he left and stopped contacting me or answering my calls. I was shocked and destroyed by the offensive and extremely cruel way of treating me by someone, who before pretended to love me. I went through all possibilities to see if I’m able to have this child, and I decided that I’m not strong enough on my own (I don’t have supportive family, and my economical situation was quite bad).

L'illegalità del suo aborto ha influenzato i suoi sentimenti?

I am Polish, and for last 3 years I have been living and working in UK, where the abortion is legal. It was a great stress to face the abortion situation on my own (no support from the partner or family), and if I had an additional pressure from the legal order, I would feel in a lot bigger oppression. It was a great help and relief for me – while undertaking my decision – to know that I have a choice and don’t have to have a baby, and I was lucky not to face this situation in Poland, where the abortion is still illegal.

Come hanno reagito le altre persone al suo aborto?

I was quite on my own, and had only one friend, who knew and supported me, which I'm very grateful for.

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Marcela

Es más una historia de amor, que de un aborto pero posiblemente en algo te…

Marie

I had an abortion. It's a choice I want available for every woman, for…

Ani

Yo aborté, a mis 25 años y en Chile. No es menor, es un país institucionalmente…

Вика а

I had an abortion я сделала аборт и не жалею. это бил правильный выбор. Я…

Ana Vargas

Mi aborto lo hice a los 14años hoy tengo una hija de 23 años y un hijo de 17…

Fernanda

Descobri que estava grávida no dia do meu aniversário, na época, sem nenhum…

laura

Mi experiencia

michel

i'm irish, i had an abortion while living in the netherlands.

Phoebe

I didn't want to do it, but it is my worst fear to bring another child into the…

Luna

Aún grito perdón

Maree

It was sad but necessary

A.

Dzień, w którym dowiedziałam się o ciąży (kolejnej ciąży) był jednym z…

Sam

I had a Medical Abortion - Painful Experience, Life Changing

Miih Be

Dia 9 de Setembro de 2019 tive relação sexual desprotegida com meu noivo, ele…

Iza

To było trudne doświadczenie, ale nie żałuję.