Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

luna oscura

¿En serio estoy embarazada?

diana

naprawde nie miałam wyjścia jestem miesiąc po,nie bolało szczerze mówiąc…

Natália Sampaio

Abortei sim! Não foi fácil. foi um dos momentos mas difíceis da minha vida, mas…

kate swanson

I didn't intend it to, but safe, legal abortion played a huge part in my family…

Aleja12-09

Por siempre y para siempre en mi mente.

katrina nicole

the only time i look back is to say thank god

Laura

Fue una difícil decisión a pesar que no es mi primer aborto. Sé que tengo un…

Canela

Me hice un aborto porque no quería ser madre en ese momento.

Maggie

Desculpa não te ter dado uma chance de sobreviveres, mas fiquei demasiado…

Ania

Wczoraj dokonałam aborcji.
Odejście od męża, związanie się z nowym, wydawałoby…

María

Jamás sabré si fue la mejor decisión, jamás lo podré conocer, pero en este…

Van Nessa

I had an abortion.

XHTarv

Too selfish, and ok with that for now.

Isa

Tenho 28 anos, namoro a 2 anos. Sou do interior.
Duas semanas atrás descobri que…

Brenda

Having an abortion was the right thing for my family.

Izabela

Mam 20 lat i zupełnie nie byłam przygotowana na ciąże.
Ja i mój chłopak…

keira

Chcę mieć kontrolę. Zrobiłam to i NIE ŻAŁUJĘ.

Wzięłam pierwszą tabletkę, czułam…