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i had an abortion

2010 États-Unis

Quels étaient vos sentiments au sujet de faire l'avortement / s?

I had the easiest and most gentle abortion that I think is possible. I had financing from the state, compassionate and well-trained doctor and nurses, a freaked-out but well-meaning guy (we weren't together, just friends who had sex a few times), a soft bed to return home to, pain medication, ice cream, etc. Even with all of that, I still had some serious emotions to go through. NOT because I had any doubts as to whether or not I made the right decision. I have no regrets, and when I was just thinking about me and the little shrimp-sized embryo growing inside of me, I felt completely at peace with the idea that I'd be ending its development. I also felt sad, but not ... wrong. It was the right decision. It was my decision. I had to mourn some for unrealized possibilities. That's what an embryo is - a possibility. But I felt then, and I don't think I was mistaken, that a full pregnancy and childbirth would have broken me, whether or not I ended up keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption. Either situation would have simply broken me as a person. It was not a good time in my life. But the world being what it is, I felt everyone's eyes upon. I thought they would know what I was doing, that they would judge or yell or hit me or who knows what. And this is me in my little safe bubble of a (relatively) sexually liberated city in a (relatively) progressive state. I can't even imagine what so many of you have to deal with, and I wish I could make it easier for you. I wish I could make it okay. I hope you are all okay inside at least. At least you know you aren't alone, right? Alone in my home after the abortion, I thought about my life, and how I am able to make choices, to take responsibility for my own actions, to determine (to a certain extent) the type of life I'm going to lead. Getting pregnant, and then getting an abortion, made me a better person. I'm not going to fuck around anymore. I want to have kids. I'm on the road to getting ready. If I were to have an unplanned pregnancy now (the likelihood of which is verrry slim, but you can bet I'll never again assume anything works 100% of the time!), my decision regarding whether or not to abort might be different. I'm so very, very grateful that the decision will be mine to make, whenever it may come again. Thank you so much, women (and men!) of the world who fight for us all.

Comment avez-vous fait l'avortement?

As smooth as can be expected. Really. It hurt, and I bled, but with pain medication (I think it was just extra-strength Ibuprofen) and hot tea, it wasn't terrible. The worst was over by the next morning. Then I had some mild cramping and some more light-medium bleeding, but not bad at all. No fever, no nausea, etc.

Quelle était votre situation à ce moment-là?

Comment les autres personnes ont-elles réagi à votre avortement ?

with compassion

légal/illégal

What is your religion?

Laura

Fue la mejor decicion para todos pero eso no cambia que yo amaba a mi bebe

Catalina

El Misotrol salvó mi vida

Tanya

I was not in a stable relationship and was already raising a daughter on my own.

Liz

I cry. Going into the decision I was strong and certain that I wanted to have…

Julia

Uratowałam sobie życie

Xara

I had Three Abortions.

Kiara

Lo hice por amor al bebé, no me merecía como mamá.

thya thya

hari ini harusnya usia kandungan sy menjelang 12 minggu , sy gagal pertahankan…

Vanessa

yo conoci a los 14 años a un vigilante que trabajaba donde mi mama el era super…

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Aborté a mis 18, a unos cuantos meses de mi graduación de preparatoria.
Me…

Claire

My first abortion took place when I was 19 and the second, when I was 26. I…

Yasmin Silva

Enfim, vou contar minha história com muita paz no meu coração e na minha vida.

Daniela

My perception of so many things changed a lot with this experience and realised…

Elisa Isalia

Stosowałam przez dwa lata tabletki anty. Wszystko było ok doczasu az pewnego…

Cacau

O aborto é uma escolha apenas da MULHER.

Młoda Dama

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deedee

한국에 계신 분들 걱정마십쇼!! 낙심하시 마시고 자신을 믿으세요!

kate swanson

I didn't intend it to, but safe, legal abortion played a huge part in my family…