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i had an abortion

2010 United States

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

I had the easiest and most gentle abortion that I think is possible. I had financing from the state, compassionate and well-trained doctor and nurses, a freaked-out but well-meaning guy (we weren't together, just friends who had sex a few times), a soft bed to return home to, pain medication, ice cream, etc. Even with all of that, I still had some serious emotions to go through. NOT because I had any doubts as to whether or not I made the right decision. I have no regrets, and when I was just thinking about me and the little shrimp-sized embryo growing inside of me, I felt completely at peace with the idea that I'd be ending its development. I also felt sad, but not ... wrong. It was the right decision. It was my decision. I had to mourn some for unrealized possibilities. That's what an embryo is - a possibility. But I felt then, and I don't think I was mistaken, that a full pregnancy and childbirth would have broken me, whether or not I ended up keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption. Either situation would have simply broken me as a person. It was not a good time in my life. But the world being what it is, I felt everyone's eyes upon. I thought they would know what I was doing, that they would judge or yell or hit me or who knows what. And this is me in my little safe bubble of a (relatively) sexually liberated city in a (relatively) progressive state. I can't even imagine what so many of you have to deal with, and I wish I could make it easier for you. I wish I could make it okay. I hope you are all okay inside at least. At least you know you aren't alone, right? Alone in my home after the abortion, I thought about my life, and how I am able to make choices, to take responsibility for my own actions, to determine (to a certain extent) the type of life I'm going to lead. Getting pregnant, and then getting an abortion, made me a better person. I'm not going to fuck around anymore. I want to have kids. I'm on the road to getting ready. If I were to have an unplanned pregnancy now (the likelihood of which is verrry slim, but you can bet I'll never again assume anything works 100% of the time!), my decision regarding whether or not to abort might be different. I'm so very, very grateful that the decision will be mine to make, whenever it may come again. Thank you so much, women (and men!) of the world who fight for us all.

How did you do the abortion?

As smooth as can be expected. Really. It hurt, and I bled, but with pain medication (I think it was just extra-strength Ibuprofen) and hot tea, it wasn't terrible. The worst was over by the next morning. Then I had some mild cramping and some more light-medium bleeding, but not bad at all. No fever, no nausea, etc.

What was your situation at this time?

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with compassion

legal/illegal

What is your religion?

Catarina Fernando

Tenho 18 anos e os meus pais nunca iriam aceitar que eu tivesse um filho com…

Serena

I had an abortion

Fernanda

Descobri que estava grávida no dia do meu aniversário, na época, sem nenhum…

Bryann Turner

It was the right decision for me at this time.

Rocio Rocio

14 semanas

Lily

I had a medical abortion (the pill) with BPAS when I was just shy of 8 weeks.

luz

getting thru the pain.

Jess

*No podía ser* 11sem

Canela

Me hice un aborto porque no quería ser madre en ese momento.

Maleja

Yo aborté.

Jaq

I was 21, and nowhere near ready or willing to carry and birth a child because…

Sixtine

Tout choix à sa difficulté, le tout est d'assumer.

Bea

Enfim,tudo começou em Outubro. Tive relações sexuais com meu parceiro fixo (Meu…

Mariana

Esta es mi historia: Tengo 35 años y 3 hijos, dos nenas y un varón de 6, 3 y 1…

julie

My life became changed

Karolina

Miałam aborcję

Gaby

Força, tudo que precisa!

CINTIA

Yo aborté y no me arrepiento de ello.

Ana Vargas

Mi aborto lo hice a los 14años hoy tengo una hija de 23 años y un hijo de 17…