Ewa Izabela

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I am pro-choice

2005 United Kingdom (born in Poland)

It was a hard and extremely difficult decision, and I had a lot of doubts, trying to find my way. Today I’m sure that was a right decision, and I don’t regret it, but I regret deeply that I had to loose a child. I was sad and crying for long time – as we are sad after someone loved died or left for ever, and we cannot help it. But I was right deciding that I wasn’t able to have a child at that moment.

I had my abortion in London, at Marie Stopes, where everyone was very professional, and supporting. My pregnancy was very early – 3,5 weeks, so I had just the pills. Normally the women have strong cramps and a lot of blood after them, but I didn’t. I was extremely stressed because of whole situation, and the night before taking pills I had cramps, and a lot of blood, and I thought it was a kind of miscarriage. So after pills nothing happened, no cramps, and almost no blood.

I had a boyfriend, who told me he was infertile. We were planning to adopt children in the future. I don’t know if he really meant that, or was just lying, but obviously he wasn’t infertile. When I told him I’m pregnant, he said he wasn’t going to stay with me, and he wanted me to abort, he left and stopped contacting me or answering my calls. I was shocked and destroyed by the offensive and extremely cruel way of treating me by someone, who before pretended to love me. I went through all possibilities to see if I’m able to have this child, and I decided that I’m not strong enough on my own (I don’t have supportive family, and my economical situation was quite bad).

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I am Polish, and for last 3 years I have been living and working in UK, where the abortion is legal. It was a great stress to face the abortion situation on my own (no support from the partner or family), and if I had an additional pressure from the legal order, I would feel in a lot bigger oppression. It was a great help and relief for me – while undertaking my decision – to know that I have a choice and don’t have to have a baby, and I was lucky not to face this situation in Poland, where the abortion is still illegal.

How did other people react to your abortion?

I was quite on my own, and had only one friend, who knew and supported me, which I'm very grateful for.

diana

naprawde nie miałam wyjścia jestem miesiąc po,nie bolało szczerze mówiąc…

Constanza

Aborto seguro, entorno amoroso

Rocio Rocio

14 semanas

Pluma93

Fue una decisión de vida

Natalia

La decisión de abortar no es nada fácil, en realidad por mi mente deabundan…

Gina

Porque no era el momento indicado y los anticonceptivos fallaron.

Mickey

I was 22 turning 23 when I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant. The father and I…

Briana

Experiencia dificil.. Pero inolvidable

magdalena

Miałam aborcje. Dzięki pomocy i wyrozumiałości women on web uda mi się to.

Ianne

A cry of freedom for all women who are dictated by the mentality of the norms…

Mandy Amanda

Hora de recomeçar

Jess

*No podía ser* 11sem

Natalia M

Yo aborté, y no me arrepiento.

Mary

I can now carry on with life.

Aguacate

Como abortar en una ciudad donde es penalizado el aborto las primeras semanas.

qbAnchic

This will be my 5th abortion today. This is the first time I've do e it with…

Liz

Eu tinha 22 anos, minha menstruação atrasou e meus seios estavam muito inchados.

Paloma

Decidida, sin culpa ni arrepentimiento, soy fiel a mi misma.