Ivana

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I had an abortion and never talked about it with anyone

2002 United States (born in Mexico)

I am surprised at how long I have carried these feelings with me. In part I think it's because I never grieved properly, was in denial and threw myself into intense activity, working and studying as if my life depended on it. I also never really got to talk about it because of shame or not wanting to make people feel uncomfortable. I am just starting to realize that I need to do the grieving process properly in order to be able to heal. I don't feel guilty though, and I know it was the right decision. If anything I just wish I had taken better care of my emotions and made sure I had some support. I'm glad to have realized this now and started my healing process.

I tried first with herbs, a very intense schedule drinking infusions every 4 hours, even through the night, for 2 weeks. I had cramping and other reactions, but was unsuccessful. So I decided to go to a clinic. By then I was 6 weeks pregnant.

I felt like I had no support in the world and didn't feel capable of being a parent on my own and give a child a good life. I didn't want to carry a baby to term and give it away in adoption because I thought that would be even more painful.

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

Abortion in Mexico was illegal back then, not sure how it is now. But the illegality definitely made me feel scared. I decided to travel to the US in order to not have to deal with any of the back street horror stories you hear about.

How did other people react to your abortion?

My boyfriend at the time wanted us to never tell anyone, so I didn't. But this in time made it more painful. I am still afraid of people's reactions.

Sara

Tome la decisión ya que anteriormente (a los 15 años) ya había tenido un…

keira

Chcę mieć kontrolę. Zrobiłam to i NIE ŻAŁUJĘ.

Wzięłam pierwszą tabletkę, czułam…

Katarzyna

Nie mogłam mieć dziecka z kilku powodów: jeszcze się uczę, chłopak w ogóle nie…

Beth

No estaba 10% segura pero lo hice,
Yo aborte.

Alex

Never felt so relieved in my life. I owe everything to planned parenthood and…

Ana

El día de ayer aborté

carolina

yo aborté y quiero contar mi experiencia...

Gina

Porque no era el momento indicado y los anticonceptivos fallaron.

Johanna P.

Era lo que tenia que hacer

Jay

I had a medical abortion when i was 18 years old at 5 weeks pregnant. Yes, it…

Jes

No fue facil pero lo hise y me ha hido muy bien! Fue mi mejor decición!

carolina

Interrumpi mi embarazo de un mes y medio

Freedom77

I was lucky enough to be able to have an NHS surgical termination at 8 weeks.

Lili

I interrupted my early pregnancy

Mitzi .

I had an abortion. And i know that was the best choice.

julie

My life became changed

Giovana Cardoso

Fiz um aborto com 10 semanas e 2 dias de gestação

serenity

DECISIONES!!

Anon

I had an abortion at 15...and my life is still going well