Eléonore Delmas

Comparta su experiencia

I had an abortion

1994 Francia (nacido en France)

¿Cuáles fueron sus sentimientos acerca de hacer el aborto (s)?

Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp

¿Cómo hizo el aborto?

I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.

¿Cuál era su situación en ese momento?

I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.

¿La ilegalidad del aborto afectó sus sentimientos?

It was legal both times. I was relieved.

¿Cómo reaccionaron otras personas a tu aborto?

I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.

Tiene hijos?

Qué religión profesa?

Sam

I was 21 years old. I actually had just stopped using Birth Control due to the…

Daniela

Yo aborté y es la mejor decisión que pude haber tomado.

Francisca

yo encauce mi destino...

YoungWoman from India

This website gave me the confidence that I could do it. It gave me all the…

Claudia Aviles

i had an abortion, and 10 years later i became a mother. you have the right to…

Ana

Fiz um aborto e não me arrependo. O meu desejo é que todas as mulheres tenham…

Ana Costa

Fiz o aborto com 7 semanas

Emmy Smith

It was the best decision of my life

Naad

I had an abortion when I was 23 years old

Magda

Może jestem bez serca ale niczego nie żałuję. ja chyba nie nadaję się na matkę…

Joanna

Odzyskałam Moc:)

Emily

It isn't and shouldn't be as taboo as it is made out to be.

Ninjanu

Friday, July 13th, 2012
9:03AM.
Hmm, he was supposed to be here by now… I sigh…

Sara

Abortar era la decisión que debía tomar...

Elizabeth

I had an abortion.

Katy Nunes

Meu corpo: minhas regras. Eu decido se e quando quero ter filho.

Rachelle

I have had 3 abortions, one clinical, 2 medical. I do not regret those…

Jen

I had an abortion and I'm so pleased that I had that option. I was only 18…

Sarah

Because I could barely provide for the child I had already.