Sylvie Shene

Share your story

1979 Portugal

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

How did you do the abortion?

it was okay

What was your situation at this time?

Hat die Illegalität Ihres Schwangerschaftsabbruchs Ihre Gefühle beeinflusst?

Yes

A Life-Saving Experience


Thank you for asking people to share their abortion stories. I believe that the only way we can remove the stigma surrounding abortion is to let people share their stories in public and have an open, honest dialogue.

Abortion was a life-saving experience for me. I had just turned 20 years old in 1979, when I found out that I was pregnant. I was already living in an emotional prison with my family in Portugal, and having a child at that time would have robbed me of any chance to free myself. My child wouldn’t have fared any better: He or she would have lived a life of poverty with an emotionally unavailable mother.

Abortion was illegal then, and my whole family was against it. If they had found out about my condition, there’s no doubt in my mind they would have forced me to carry my pregnancy to term by any means possible, including locking me up or giving me drugs.

Fortunately, I found a midwife who was willing to give me the abortion I needed, although I got a bad infection from the procedure and had to go to the Emergency Room. Shortly thereafter, I moved away from my family and liberated myself from the traumatic emotional bonds that tied me to them.

The moment I found out that I was pregnant, I knew in my heart that abortion was the best choice for me. I was very comfortable with my decision, and I’m still confident that I did absolutely the best thing by not bringing an innocent new being into my set of circumstances.

The way I look at it, abortion is a private choice between a woman and her conscience that has very little impact on society. On the other hand, violence and abuse against unwanted children create a huge burden on humanity. If more people thought about this, I think they’d see that people who are against abortion are actually supporting cruelty against children.

The only bad feelings I had about my abortion was that it was illegal. No woman should have to go underground to decide what’s right for her. I still feel angry that I had to hide from everyone. I strongly believe that abortion should be available to every woman who wants one, and that politicians and religious fanatics have no business controlling women or putting us down.

legal/illegal

Do you have children?

What is your religion?

Kojika

Jestem w stałym związku od 7lat. Mam kochającego mężczyznę i mała córeczkę.

Gabriela

Você não está sozinha!

Mitzi .

I had an abortion. And i know that was the best choice.

Nami Tibbers

Não vi outra opção. Então tomei coragem e optei por um aborto.

Charlotte Sigler

I had an abortion

Fernanda

Descobri que estava grávida no dia do meu aniversário, na época, sem nenhum…

Zuzanna

Chciałabym opisać moją historię, która zakończyła się dokładnie trzy dni temu.

noha

y la verdad para mi fue un alivio, esto comenzó un el mismo dia que decidi…

Bryann Turner

It was the right decision for me at this time.

Ania

Wczoraj dokonałam aborcji.
Odejście od męża, związanie się z nowym, wydawałoby…

Génesis

Hola. Esta es mi experiencia.
Tengo 17 años actualmente, no soy virgen pero…

Lilian

Wiosną skończyłam 36 lat, ginekolog sugerował, że pigułka antykoncepcyjna to…

Juliette

j´ai avorté.

Vicky

I had an abortion

Sam

I was 21 years old. I actually had just stopped using Birth Control due to the…

Dulcinea Vázquez

Las pastillas tardaron un poco mas de 3 horas en hacer efecto, no presenté…