Jane

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I had 2 abortions

1989 Großbritannien

What were your feelings about doing the abortion/s?

The first abortion I was very sure it was the right thing to do and felt very relieved afterwards. However psychologically it affected me a lot. I felt dirty and cheap. I did not want to have a relationship with a man afterwards. I was angry but could not talk to anyone about how I felt and bottled it up. I became depressed and isolated. A few years later I fell pregnant from a one night stand, one of the few times I had sex afterwards. I was very drunk. I took the morning after pill the next day but it didn’t work. I couldn’t believe I was in the same place again. I decided to have an abortion again as my family said they would not support me. It was terrible and broke my heart. However I learnt so much from my heartache. I decided to shake myself out of my depression and do something. I took responsibility for my actions. It was a horrible thing to do but it was necessary. Slowly I built my life again. I bought a flat. I met a wonderful man who loved me for who I was. We married and I had a baby at the right time. She was and is the best thing that ever happened to me. I had another beautiful daughter. We are a very happy family. I sometimes think about the babies I did not have have but a know I was too young and irresponsible and I would not have been a good mother. I have made peace with them and myself. I think abortions should be avoided at all costs but women need to be able to have the choice. No man should tell them otherwise. I want young women to know that even if you feel terrible now you can still find a lot of happiness in your future. Have faith in yourself and keep trying to find the right path for you.

How did you do the abortion?

It was physically uncomfortable and there was a lot of blood afterwards

What was your situation at this time?

My first abortion I was in a very dysfunctional relationship. My boyfriend was a heroin addict although he hid it from me. I had finished with him when I found out I was pregnant. I was in second year at university and having a child at 19 was not in my plans. My second abortion was from a one night stand where I was basically raped as I was out of control drunk. I couldn’t face bringing a baby into the world like that.

Hat die Illegalität Ihres Schwangerschaftsabbruchs Ihre Gefühle beeinflusst?

I was lucky to live in a country that offers legal free abortions.

Wie haben andere Menschen auf Ihre Abtreibung reagiert?

I didn’t tell many people. My best friends. They were shocked and didnt really know how to react

legal/illegal

What is your religion?

Nami

porque mi situación económica era pésima, al igual que la de mi pareja, ninguno…

josie

I had an abortion and now feel I have 10kgs off my shoulders alone, a little…

mery elizabeth

tomando la decisión de mi vida

Anyel. Mtz.

Esto marcó mi vida, pero agradezco a Dios por esta segunda oportunidad

Gabriela

Abortei aos 17 anos.

Julia

Foi um pesadelo mas no final me senti mais aliviada

Duda

Sendo lactante

deedee

한국에 계신 분들 걱정마십쇼!! 낙심하시 마시고 자신을 믿으세요!

raay

Com 17 semanas, sem dores nem complicações . Eu engravidei numa recaida, tomei…

Fernanda

Descobri que estava grávida no dia do meu aniversário, na época, sem nenhum…

Daisy

Miałam aborcję. I nie jestem z tego dumna.
19 lutego 2020 roku zrobiłam test…

Emilamontreal

J'ai avorté suite à ma grossesse arrêtée à 8 semaines

Esmeralda Esmralda

Por que lo hice es quizas por que nobera mi momentl consideraba era muy pequeña…

xjustynax

Od stycznia tego roku, poczułam, że w końcu zdobyłam mężczyznę którego tak…