Nikki

I had an abortion. In fact I have had two. And I am not ashamed.

Nikki
How old are you: Between 36 and 42

Country of birth: United States

Year of abortion: 1990

Country of abortion: United States

My friends were supportive overall. My family does not know.

Type of abortion: in a clinic or hospital with surgery

The first was rather negative because the nurses were not very nice. The second was fantastic. Even though it was during a HUGE anti-choice demonstration, everyone in the clinic was so kind, I felt they cared more for me than the protestors did.

Reason for abortion: my age (too young or old), problems with my relationship, my personal reasons for not wanting a child

I've had two abortions. Both were while I was in college. The first one, I was initially really happy to be pregnant with someone I loved. However, the relationship quickly became abusive, and I knew I did not want my child or myself to be in that environment. I also knew he would be after me for the rest of my life if I had that baby. So, I had an abortion.

The second, I was dating a great guy, very sweet and kind, just the type of person I would want in my life. He had finished a degree in Physics, and was working on one in Electrical Engineering. He had big plans to enter the Naval Flight Academy and become an astronaut. I was taking the Pill, and became pregnant without realizing it, until I completely missed a period, and a sonogram showed I was 12 weeks pregnant. I'd spent the first several weeks of my pregnancy taking BC pills. I had no idea what the results would be. In addition, I could NOT saddle my boyfriend with a child at this stage. He would have done "the right thing" and married me, but it would have completely destroyed the relationship.

I do something wonder what could have been, but I cannot begin to tell you how happy I am to have been able to make the choices that I did.

Feelings about abortion: comfortable, resolved, relieved, confident, as usual, sure

Religion no religion

Children: i have no children