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A couple years ago, when I had the abortion, my ex boyfriend suggested me to do it and bought me the medicines. Today I'm not sure if he was thinking about women rights or just wanted to free himself from the responsability of raising a kid...

Now I'm married with another man. I told him my story and he said women should decide what they want, but he's concerned about me cause I still feel sorry about it.

That experience was hard. I realised my period was late and I just found I could be pregnant, but I didn't want to believe it. I took some herbs for days but it didn't work.

I was desperated. I talked to my ex boyfriend, then he found this website and ordered the medicines. I was confused. I was so afraid that I didn't tell anyone, so I hadn't the opportunity to share it and talk about it with someone.

It took some weeks before I finally have the courage to take the medicines. So I had them one night and soon I started to feel a big pain for hours. Then I bled for a long time, and suddenly I could see the tiny little baby expelled. Him/her was about 2 months old so him/her was visible. That was horrible. I felt like a monster. I cryied for days, I was so guilty. I was confused and I needed someone to talk to, but I hadn't. I was afraid to tell what I did. I just buried my baby in the backyard. I was sad and alone.

I went to the doctor a couple weeks after it and I told her I had a natural abortion. I made some exams and I was fine. I'm grateful I hadn't any sequels. I thought my ex boyfriend should have supported me in other way, so I broke up with him a few months later.

Then I met a really nice man, and we love each other a lot. I told him my story and he didn't judge me. He just said if I get pregnant again he's gonna support me and the baby. We married this year and now I'm happy. We're happy. And we're planning on having kids someday. :)

Having an abortion is an experience you carry with you for your whole life. It's unforgettable. So I'm sharing my story with you girls so you can think about it.

Although I had it, I'm against it in some way. If you're healthy and able to raise a kid, it's good to think about it. Maybe it can be a fun experience.

I'm not telling you girls you shouldn't do what you really want to. I'm just advising you to think about it consciously, to chill, talk to someone and be sure it's what you want, so you can make the best choice for YOU. Otherwise you'll carry this silent pain and guilt forever, just like me.

So this is my message to you girls: Think about it, be sure you'll be doing what you really want to, so you'll feel no regrets.

My family, I thought they would never accept that. Mom is severe and so concerned about relationships and pregnancy, dad thinks I'm a perfect daughter, my siblings aren't that friendly and reliable. I felt like I wouldn't be supported.

But I didn't want to do an abortion cause it's illegal and I felt it was wrong. I was confused. The only one I talked to was my ex boyfriend and he suggested me to do it and at the moment I thought it could be a solution, but after I regretted what I did.

I know I did it because at the moment I thought it was the best choice, but after I felt really guilty and sad. I still have these fellings today, some years after. I feel I was the only one that was responsible for my baby and who was supposed to love and take care of him/her, but I couldn't to do it. I feel I was afraid, weak, coward, selfish and mean.