Stella

My sister's husband was not supportive of my choice. My sister and my partner were both supportive of my choice. Both my partner and I discussed the abortion prior to reaching a conclusion. He was supportive of my choice and we both believed it to be the best option at the time. We were both emotionally upset about it, but still see it as the correct decision.

I had an abortion using RU486. I feel like it was easier in that I was only a few weeks pregnant and had the option of RU486. My partner and I both agreed that we want to have children together, but at the time it was too early in our relationship and I did not feel financially ready to bring a child into this world and support a family. I feel like if I had to do a medical abortion it would have not been possible for me emotionally. I am glad that I found out I was pregnant early on and had the choice to use RU486. The process of using RU486 was relatively easy since it is legal here in the US and I could sit comfortably at home with my partner. It would have been harder if there was no one there to help me emotionally through the process. I can only send warm thoughts and hope for mental support for women out there who do not have someone there for them to aid them in the process of an abortion. It is a hard decision (even when you know that is what you want and is the right choice) but it is easier when you have someone, anyone, to supoort your decision.

I want to be able to have a child in the way that I want - not by what I can afford via government support (Medicare). I was not ready financially to go through a pregnancy, birth and raising a child.

I was afraid about RU486 since I had looked into the statistics of possible partial abortions and massive bleeding. It ended up being without complications and was relatively easy, comfortable and "text book". It was a hard decision - my partner and I spent some time prior to getting RU486 after making the decision just holding each other and crying. We both want children, but agreed that it wasn't the right time. Since we both wanted children it was hard to have that opportunity there and then to say "no" to it. I still see my decision as being the right decision for the moment. When I was at the clinin they kept asking me if I had changed my mind or if I was being coerced since I seemed so upset about having the abortion. I was a little shocked since it seemd to me that anyone in their right mind would exhibit some kind of mental struggle with a big decision like an abortion - even if you KNEW that that was the right choice. It is a big decision. Even if the pregnancy was the result of rape, incest or I was in a harmful or dangerous situation/relationship it would still be a decision that would be filled with emotional feelings. I think that that is part of being human. We should cherish those feelings and try to figure out why we feel that way and then learn from thema nd be able to move on. You cannot throw those feelings away and say that if you have conflict in your decision then that means you should not do it. I know I made the right decision even if I was emotional about the decision. I hope this helps someone in their decisions.