zenzonhle mpungoseI had an abortion last year and it was a self abortion. although i live in a coubtry where legal arbotions are available and some are free at government hospitals, i was afraid of going through the shame. so i went to see a doctor who gave me the arbotion pills and he was the one who inserted them into my vagina. i had to do it,because my boyfriend didn't want the baby and he told me if i had the baby he would have nothing to do with us. funny as he was in the medical field qualified as a dentist i could not understand why he wanted the baby gone. i'm pretty sure it wasn't because of financial difficulties. it took some time for me to accept and deal with the emotionas that followed. it was not easy but i had my reasons and i moved on with my life, without the boyfriend. i am now studying at varsity and would encourage all women out there to make the decision that siuts them and feel no shame as they alone know thier circumstances. help is available out there and if you feel sad talk to someone you trust it helps you to deal better with the scars. and remember it's not the end of the world there is life after that experience.
How old are you: Between
20
and 26
Country of birth: South Africa
Year of abortion:
2007
Country of abortion: South Africa
my cousin was very supportive but i didn't tell her the real reason for my arbotion, i just told her i didn't want the baby. many pepole didn't know as where u come from it's still a stigma and people are very judgemental.
Type of abortion: by myself
the process was simple as a doctor was involved the only pain i felt was during the bleeding as i had severe cramps.
Reason for abortion: my education, my age (too young or old), problems with my relationship
if someone comes across an unplanned pregnancy and doesn't wanna keep the baby, they should be 100% sure about the decision of having an arbotion and try to get support from someone close as the scars can really hace an effect on you afterwards. the fact that the man i had once loved so much made me do this was the most painful thing, obviously the arbotion was not my choice but i had to do it as he wasn't going to stand by me.
Feelings about abortion: grieving, disappointed, sure, afraid, sad
i fely alone and sad, i wasn't ashamed of what i had done but i felt empty inside. the feelings were not about what other people thought of me but how i saw myself and how i felt inside. it was difficult at first, but i survived and life went back to normal. i am now in a relationship with a great guy and i am on contraceptives as a way preventing any unplanned pregnancy. i am also using protection everytime i have sex and this time around i'm doing things the right way for my own sake
Religion Christianity
Children: i have no children
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