Diane

I had an abortion while engaged in college. I had some doubt that this man was "The One" prior to our unplanned pregancy, but his reaction sealed the deal. He denied I was pregnant, then asked me to see more doctors to confirm, then told me to have my insurance pay for an abortion. More interesting, 2 weeks prior he was asking me to move up our wedding date. He refused to help financially with the abortion and only went to the clinic because I told him I would never see him again if he did not. We tried to continue dating, but his religion got the best of him & he thought "his Christian God" would never forgive him because I had an abortion. I responded that G-d would not punish him for my actions, and the G-d I know would be far more angry at his own behavior in the matter and toward me anyway. I now have several children and have conceived (again) while using birth control methods. I am grateful I had access to legal abortion and can decide when and how many children to have. I am thankful to have a good man as my children's father and to have the opportunity to determine the parameters of my motherhood. I do not regret the abortion, although I do regret relying on only one form of birth control and getting pregnant in the first place, particularly with a man so unworthy.