Berla

I had an abortion

Berla
How old are you: Between 32 and 38

Country of birth: Netherlands

Year of abortion: 1999

Country of abortion: Netherlands

I only told a few people, and thay reacted understanding.

Type of abortion: in a clinic or hospital with surgery

The people in the clinic were not judging and professional. The curettage was unpleasant, but not that painfull and happened very quick. I am very happy and grateful that this legal kind of help exists in my country.

Reason for abortion: problems with my relationship, my personal reasons for not wanting a child

At that point in my life I did not want a child, and I was not sure if I wanted to continue my relationship with the father.
If I am going to choose for a child I want to take emotionally and financially well care of that child with 100% commitment and the father needs to be the man I intent to stay with untill the end.
That pregnancy was an accident, not my choice and the father was not the man for life.

Feelings about abortion: irresponsible, selfish, relieved, stupid, ashamed, sure

I felt uncomfortable asking for this abortion: afraid of being judged, ashamed of not being more careful and responsible, egoistic because I was not a teenager anymore or to have another real reason to do this abortion. Also I was afraid of feeling guilty later.
But at the same time I felt really sure of not wanting to have a baby; and afterwards, even until now, I felt and feel relieved that I took this decision.

Religion no religion

Children: i have no children